I just spent the last few days with my wife staying in our four hundred square foot second home.
It is quiet comfortable and simple. There is little to distract us. No TV. No lawn to mow. Just eat sleep and relax.
We were in the present. Focused and enjoyed ourselves.
We have decided we like that so much were going to make it our primary residence on the ocean beach front. We will be able to take long walks and explore the small town we will live in, ride our bikes, kayak in the bay, sit by a fire and whip up a fresh clam chowder from the days catch. I had time to focus on what we really want in life now and time and experiences are whats important to us. So we are selling every thing that does not fit in that new life we will be living soon. I hope to be their full time by fall.
I have been working this post over in my head for a while now so here goes.
The real reason we are not rich, happy and successful is not because we aren’t working hard. It is because we are not focused! We are driven to distraction! There is so much going on in our daily lives we are constantly distracted by instant everything!!
Let me give you an example. Have you ever been driving down the road listening to the radio talking on the phone (or texting) while eating your Breakfast/lunch/dinner and later you can’t even remember what you ate? Or you got to where you were going and the time just flew by? I see some head nodding and finger-pointing going on out there 🙂
We are not present in our lives. We are lost in our distractions. We are not Here and now. We are tuned out.
Because we are ghosting thru life unhappy with reality so we live in an altered perception of non reality called LA LA LAND!! We are zombies!! I know a little harsh but true. TV, cellphones, music, computers, the internet, face book, texting All designed to keep us distracted.
What about material pursuits. Cars, houses, boats, RV’s of all sorts, shopping, restaurants, lions and tigers and bears oh my!!
When was the last time you were focused and present and in the moment?
Do you even know what it means or feels like to be here and now? Try not thinking about the past or the future but only here in the moment. It takes focus. Your mind will wander and the eternal internal dialog that runs in your head starts to distract you from reality. HERE and NOW!
FOCUS…Whats going on around you? Sights sounds, smells, tastes, textures…ARE you here? Or are you drifting away, wandering, day dreaming?
What could you accomplish if you were focused? Present? How much productivity if you are here and now. Doing one thing not 5 or 6 tasks at once.(so called multitasking) You know if we could multitask we would be able to pat are heads and rub our bellys at the same time. I’m not sure what that helps even if you can.
So I said all that to say this.
If you truly want to be happy you need focus. To acomplish that be present and here and now in the moment mindful of what is going on around you. I once read if you want to meet your goals faster make a list of the 10 most important things in your life.
Go ahead I’ll wait… Ok got it?
Now get rid of them they are distracting you from your goals!!
Yes that’s what I said. Think about it. What are those things? And what would happen if you did not have them in your life? What are they really costing you?
You are playing safe in life.
Are you playing the game of life to win or just not to lose? Because you don’t want to risk losing those things? With nothing to lose you have everything to gain.
What if everything you owned fit in a back pack? What could you do? Where would you go? How would you live? What would it cost? Life would not be very complicated.
Now what can you accomplish with no distractions? No worries? Nothing to lose. Time to focus. Create value. Live simply. Fully present.
NOW experience life.